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Monday, October 05, 2009

Strike Two

I have a very good friend who used to bail out on virtually ALL social occasions. She couldn't explain why, and those of us in her circle of friends just gradually came to accept that Kay was a flake. Kay didn't see it that way--she found social gatherings uncomfortable and anything more than two or three people was reason to not show up.

I didn't understand it, but looking at her career, it made sense--she spent all day working as a counselor in mental health and juvenile delinquency settings, and the idea of using her leisure time to navigate through the pitfalls of social gatherings with friends, strangers, friends-of-friends and sometimes relatives was probably unappealing.

I don't have her excuse. I'm two-for-two, having missed the JBlogger Convention because of work (training day--not negotiable) and today missed the JBlogger Picnic which I've been looking forward to for a week.

Unlike Kay, I actually LIKE meeting people, and friends of friends (we'll leave relatives out of it for now, with the exception of my sister-in-law and my cousins, who are gems)and listening to other people's take on things--whether or not I agree with them.

But I got up early (0530) to get started early on work, and skipped the gym so I'd be done by 3pm, all with the intention of swinging over to Gan Sacher with my family in tow to meet with bloggers I already know and hopefully bloggers I haven't met yet.

"You guys ready?" I called, shutting down the laptop.

"Do I HAVE to go?" grumbled the teen. "I REALLY don't want to do this."

"I have a headache," the Husband muttered from the couch.

"Oh, c'mon, I've been looking forward to this all week," I remonstrated. "The weather is great, there's a sukkah, we'll stop and get burgers or a felafal so you don't have to prep or pack."

Mike rolled his eyes at me. "This is not something I really want to do...I'll go if you insist because you're my wife, but I'd rather do a lot of other things."

"I don't want to go...." the Kid announced for about the 17th time [yes, I heard you already...]

"But it's Sukkot, and I thought it would be fun to go out and do something together as a family---I want to go, but I don't want to go by myself while you guys just hang out at home...what do YOU want to do?" I asked.

"I dunno." "I dunno."

Men.

"Look, I've been glued to a computer screen for eight hours, unmoving. My eyes hurt. My muscles hurt. My back hurts. I need to GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND DO SOMETHING!!" I explained as rationally as possible.

"Well, I understand that," my husband conceded. "What do YOU want to do, other than go hang out with a bunch of people I've never met and wouldn't have a clue how to talk to?"

"Why not? They're olim, like us, and Jewish, like us.....you don't have to talk about writing and blogs. Talk about life." I amended cheerily.

He sank lower in the couch. "I really do have a headache. I don't feel like being social."

Sigh.

We finally agreed on the (ugh) Mall -- I could use my gift card to buy books at Steimatzky's, Josh could go look for a new computer game he wants, pick up some decorations for the sukkah, and we could all sit and have a chat over iced coffees...as a family. Something we don't do often enough any more. School, work, the rush of life going by....

It was fun. Then we came home, made dinner and ate in the sukkah, and my back didn't hurt, my eyes didn't hurt and Mike's headache had gone....

So I'm sorry for acting like my flaky friend, and I realize this is the SECOND Jblogger event I've missed...but shalom bayit was important today.

Chag Sameach!

10 Comments:

Blogger rutimizrachi said...

Shalom bayit is my absolute FAVORITE sport. You were missed; but it was for a good reason. Don't worry. We'll make more gatherings. And when the husband's headache is history, he and the Dearly Beloved and Safra-knit's husband and Ye'he Sh'mey Raba Mevorach's husband can discuss rock 'n' roll, Torah, Israeli politics, American politics, food, beer, their amazing wives' amazing blogs, sports... or Avi can teach him to play the strumstick. ;-)

Tuesday, October 6, 2009 at 9:07:00 AM GMT+2  
Blogger Baila said...

I missed it too, for the same reason--I could have left 'em and gone by myself, but I didn't feel good about that....and blogging is my thing, they are happy I enjoy it, but no more than that....

(Maybe you can come to Mom in Israel's gathering?)

Tuesday, October 6, 2009 at 10:15:00 AM GMT+2  
Blogger rutimizrachi said...

Ooh! Ooh! Baila, do tell. Details?

Tuesday, October 6, 2009 at 11:04:00 AM GMT+2  
Blogger aliyah06 said...

There you go! If I could have promised Mike a discussion about politics, beer, or baseball, he'd have been on board!

Mom-in-Israel has a gathering? I really need to keep up with the blogs these days...between school, medical and chaggim, I'm waaay behind.....

Tuesday, October 6, 2009 at 11:06:00 AM GMT+2  
Anonymous westbankmama said...

Oh my gosh, you and I had the same story. My husband had to work in the end, and crammed a full day into four hours because we had previous plans to be at his sister's for lunch. Lunch started at 2:00 instead of 12:30, so I couldn't take everyone away early enough to make the picnic (my kids were a bit skeptical too - who are these bloggers anyay?).

We have to do lunch sometime....

Tuesday, October 6, 2009 at 11:06:00 AM GMT+2  
Blogger Batya said...

I missed it, because I was in NY, kibbud av v'em. Being an empty-nested old fogey, I'm used to going alone to things. But actually, even though my husband had told me that he wasn't going to attend, he did.

Monday, October 26, 2009 at 6:30:00 AM GMT+2  
Blogger rutimizrachi said...

We missed you, Batya. But I hear a rumor that your kibbud av v'em has carried over into and beneath holy Israeli air space. May the benefits in this world and in the World to Come remind you of what an excellent daughter you are.

Monday, October 26, 2009 at 1:47:00 PM GMT+2  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Does your friend "Kay" know you posted about her, and called her a "flake" online? I'm assuming you changed the name, but still ... Kay obviously knows from experience that she is uncomfortable in large-group situations, and chooses to avoid them. What is wrong with that?

Tuesday, November 3, 2009 at 7:48:00 AM GMT+2  
Blogger aliyah06 said...

There is absolutely nothing wrong with avoiding large-group situations where one is uncomfortable....what IS wrong is repeatedly accepting invitations to such group events, encouraging friends to attend with their expectation that Kay would also be there, and then not showing up.

So why is this an issue for you and why can't you sign your name?

Tuesday, November 3, 2009 at 9:23:00 AM GMT+2  
Blogger RivkA with a capital A said...

I wondered what happened to you!! Sorry for not calling!! (I am not sure where I have your number -- I am not Kay, but I am also a flake, for other reasons!)

My husband is not a big "groupie" either. I suggested that I would go on time (hah!) and that he join us later. Which is what we did (though I was not exactly on time).

I dragged my son, who would have been happier had there been more boys his age. There was a nice group of girls.

Anyway, Park Gilo, the location of our next picnic, is more family friendly, and kids will have what to do, even if they don't hit it off with each other (which they will).

Tuesday, November 10, 2009 at 12:34:00 AM GMT+2  

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